Ceremony


Jerry will work with you to fit a service or ceremony to your specific need.

Actual Wedding Ceremony:


A wedding is the celebration of the miracle of love. ______ and ______, today, in the presence of God, and these witnesses, we celebrate this miracle in your lives.


Let Us Pray: Father, we come today asking your blessing upon these two lives and this home that is being established. You have made us so that we are incomplete without the other. We pray that Your love will be the shield and stay for Brandon and Stacey as they go forward in life together as husband and wife. Through Jesus Christ we pray, Amen.


Who gives this woman to be married to this man?


Wedding vows are not only a declaration of present love --- they are a mutually binding promise of future love. Today, we share in the celebrated anticipation of your life together as husband and wife.


Scripture has some beautiful descriptives of love that, when molded into our lives, create a quality of relationship that has perfection written all over it.


Because the Bible tells us, that God himself is love. Think of the personality behind true love when described like this in Scripture: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”


Learning to love each other and to live together in harmony is one of the greatest challenges of marriage. Marriage is not to be entered into lightly, and we are to hold it in high honor at all times.


_______ and _______, I charge you both to remember that love, trust, and loyalty are the foundation of a happy and enduring marriage. No vows are more sacred than those you are about to make. If these vows are kept unbroken, and as you endeavor to do the will of your Heavenly Father, your lives together will be full of joy and love.


Vows:

Do you ______, take this woman, to live together in marriage; will you love her, comfort her, honor and keep her, in sickness and in health, in prosperity and in adversity; and forsaking all others, be faithful to her, so long as you both shall live?

If so please answer, "I do."


Do you ______, take this man, to live together in marriage; will you love him, comfort him, honor and keep him, in sickness and in health, in prosperity and in adversity; and forsaking all others, be faithful to him, so long as you both shall live?

If so please answer, "I do"


Rings:

May I have the rings please?

These rings are symbols of eternity and the unbroken circle of love. Love freely given has no beginning and no end. Today you have chosen to exchange rings, as a sign of your love for each other, and as a seal of the promises you make this day. We ask that God bless these rings and this union of souls.


______, as you place this ring on ______ finger repeat after me:

Just as this ring/ encircles your finger,/ so does my love/ encircle your heart./ May this ring/ forever be a symbol/ of my love/ that will never depart./ With this ring I thee wed.


_______, as you place this ring on your groom’s finger repeat after me:

Just as this ring/ encircles your finger,/ so does my love/ encircle your heart./ May this ring/ forever be a symbol/ of my love/ that will never depart./ With this ring I thee wed.


Unity Ceremony:

______ and ______, today you are making a lasting commitment to share the rest of your lives with each other. This ceremony of Unity also joins your families today in a new level of relationship. This portion of your ceremony demonstrates the unity you desire, not only as husband and wife within your own home, but as an entire family unit as you live out life together.


Each of you hold a separate container. Your family relationship is symbolized through the pouring of these individual containers into one container large enough to welcome you all.

As you now combine your containers together, your lives also join together as one family. You may now blend the containers symbolizing this new uniting of your lives.


Just as these contents cannot be easily separated and poured again into individual containers, so will your lives as a family be inseparable.


The beauty of what this ceremony means is that this is only the beginning of your walk together as a family. Through the weeks, months and years ahead, you will have the opportunity to grow through the bond of family that others in your lives will not have.


Let Us Pray:

Father, we thank you for this young family being formed today. We thank you that on this day they are inviting You into the midst of their home. We ask for Your guidance and protection upon all that in being established this day. For it is in Jesus’ name we pray these things, Amen.


             (Ask Rev. Drummonds for the rest of the ceremony.)

Service 1

Long Form Traditional Wedding Ceremony - (Partial Example)

TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE CEREMONY

Dearly beloved, we are gathered together in the sight of God, and in the presence of these witnesses, to join together this man and this woman in holy matrimony, which is an honorable estate, instituted of God, and signifying unto us the mystical union which exists between Christ and His church. It is therefore not to be entered into unadvisedly, but reverently, discreetly and in the fear of God. Into this holy estate these two persons come now to be joined.


I charge you both, as you stand in the presence of God, before whom the secrets of all hearts are disclosed, that, having duly considered the holy covenant you are about to make, you do now declare before this company your pledge of faith, each to the other. Be well assured that if these solemn vows are faithfully kept, as God’s Word demands, and if steadfastly you endeavor to do the will of your heavenly Father, God will bless your marriage, He will grant you fulfillment in it, and He will establish your home in peace.


(Then shall the minister address the groom:)

Will you have this woman to be your wedded wife, to live together in the holy estate of matrimony? Will you love her, comfort her, honor and keep her, in sickness and in health; and forsaking all others keep yourself only unto her, so long as you both shall live? If so, please answer … “I will.”


(Then shall the minister address the bride:)

Will you have this man to be your wedded husband, to live together in the holy estate of matrimony? Will you love him, comfort him, honor and keep him, in sickness and in health; and forsaking all others, keep yourself only unto him, so long as you both shall live? If so, please answer … “I will.”

(Then shall the minister ask:)


Who gives this woman to be married to this man?

(The giver of the bride shall answer:)


"I do" (or Her mother and I).


Please join right hands, and repeat these words to your bride:

I, ____________, take you, ____________, to be my wedded wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part, according to God’s holy law; and thereto I pledge you my faith.


Now ... Repeat these words to your groom:

I, ____________, take you, ____________, to be my wedded husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part, according to God’s holy law; and thereto I pledge you my faith.


What token do you have of your vows?

____________, place this ring on the finger of your bride and repeat after me:

This ring I give you, in token and pledge, of the vows between us made. With this ring, I thee wed.


What token do you have of your vows?

____________, place this ring on the finger of your groom and repeat after me:

This ring I give you, in token and pledge, of the vows between us made. With this ring, I thee wed.

Let us pray ...


(The ceremony continues ...)

Service 2

Ceremony - Contemporary


Friends, we have come today at the invitation of ________ and ________ to share in the joy of their wedding. This outward celebration we shall see and hear is an expression of the inner love and devotion they have in their hearts.


Jesus Christ reminds us that at the beginning the Creator made us male and female, and said, "For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother and shall cleave to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh."


God loved us, and created us to love others. Our lives find completion only as we love and are loved in return. Together, we can become what we could never be separately. Marriage is of God.


________ And ________ come today desiring to be united in this sacred relationship. So God, we thank you for the love that ________ and ________ have for you. We believe that you have led them to this day and we ask your blessing as they exchange their vows and seal their promises. As they become husband and wife, may they do so not only in our presence, but in Yours, with Your grace surrounding them and Your love within their hearts. We pray through Christ, Amen.


________, do you now leave your father and mother to establish your own home with________ as her husband, to receive her as your wife, to make a home where she will be loved and cared for as long as God grants her life? If so, answer, “I do.”


________, do you now leave your father and mother to establish your own home with________ as his wife, to receive him as your husband, to make a home where he will be loved and cared for as long as God grants him life? If so, answer, “I do.”


(Parents)

Will the parents please stand. Do you promise to encourage __________ and ________ in their marriage, to present an example of love and devotion for them to emulate, and to help them build a strong and stable home for themselves and their family? If so, answer “I do.”


Who is giving this woman to be married to this man?

The ceremony of marriage in which you come to be united is the first and oldest ceremony in all the world, celebrated in the beginning in the presence of God himself. Marriage is a gift of God, given to comfort the sorrows of life and magnify its joys.

Marriage is the clasping of hands, the blending of hearts, the union of two lives as one. Your marriage must stand, not by the authority of the State, nor by the seal of your wedding certificate, but by the strength of your love and by the power of your faith in each other and in God.


You can have this kind of home if you continue to recognize God as the source of romance and love and affection, for these are His gifts. Build your home on a spiritual foundation.

With God, you will have everything; without Him, you will have nothing.


Now, will you please join hands and, to each other, express your vows of love and devotion.


________, will you repeat this vow to ________, saying after me: I ________, take you,________, to be my wife, to have and to hold from this day forward; for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer; in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish until we are separated by death; as God is my witness, I give you my promise.


________, will you repeat this vow to ________, saying after me: I ________, take you,________, to be my husband, to have and to hold from this day forward; for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer; in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish until we are separated by death; as God is my witness, I give you my promise.


The word of God in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 tells us what love is like and what love does: “Love is patient, love is kind, and is not jealous; Love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things endures all things. Love… Never… Fails


Having this kind of love in your hearts, you have chosen to share a ring as the sign and seal of the vows you are making today. Though small in size, a ring is very large in significance. Made of precious metal, it reminds us that love is not cheap, nor common, indeed, love may cost us dearly. Made in a circle, the design tells us that love must never come to an end, we must keep it continuous. As you wear your ring, whether together or apart for a moment, may it be a constant reminder of these glad promises you are making today.


________, will you take your ring and place it upon the third finger of ________'s left hand, and repeat after me this promise, saying: "With this ring, I seal my promise, to be your faithful and loving husband as God is my witness."


________, will you take your ring and place it upon the third finger of ________'s left hand, and repeat after me this promise, saying: "With this ring, I seal my promise, to be your faithful and loving wife as God is my witness."


Our Father, we come today asking your blessing upon these two lives and this home being established. You have made us so that we are incomplete without the other so that we yearn for someone whom we can love and whose love we can receive.

We are thankful for the love we see here, and even more, for the love we feel from you. May we never take your love for granted We pray that Your love will be the shield and stay for________ and ________. When joy comes, may they share it together. When sorrow threatens, may they bear it together. In gladness or in tears, in sunshine or in shadow, may they ever draw closer to each other and nearer to you.


Grant them patience, gentleness, forbearance, and understanding. O Father, protect their home from those forces that would break it apart. We ask for health, long life, for the fulfillment of every good dream. May their love continue through life and finally blend into the life eternal. Through Christ we pray, amen.


You have come before us and before God and have expressed your desire to be husband and wife. You have shown your love and affection by joining hands, have made promises of faith and devotion, each to the other, and have sealed these promises with the symbolic ring.


I therefore, pronounce that you are husband and wife. May the Lord bless you and keep you; The Lord make His face to shine on you, And be gracious to you; The Lord lift His countenance on you, and give you peace. Amen.


What God has joined together, let man not separate. You may kiss your bride.


Please turn and face the audience. Friends, may I present to you Mr. and Mrs. ____________________.

Service 3

Traditional Marriage Ceremony - Short Form


My friends, the ordinance of marriage was instituted by God himself in the garden of Eden, and is one of the most solemn and binding of obligations, because it involves the sacred relations of the home and the family. Your happiness for the future will largely depend upon the faithfulness with which the marriage vows are cherished and kept. There must be mutual affection the one for the other, and the marriage covenant must be kept in purity of spirit, as well as in actual word and deed, if you would reap the full fruition of happiness in your marriage.

If, with full and free consent, and thoughtful determination to keep the marriage covenant, you desire to enter the holy estate of marriage, you will acknowledge the same by taking the other by the right hand.


(With their hands joined, the minister shall address the man by name, and ask:)

Will you have this woman to be your wedded wife, to live together after God’s ordinance in the holy estate of matrimony? Will you love her, comfort her, honor and keep her, in sickness and in health; and forsaking all others, keep yourself only unto her, so long as you both shall live?


(The man shall answer:)

I will.


(Then the minister shall address the woman by name, and ask:)

Will you have this man to be your wedded husband, to live together after God’s ordinance in the holy estate of matrimony? Will you love him, comfort him, honor and keep him, in sickness and in health; and forsaking all others, keep yourself only unto him, so long as you both shall live?


(The woman shall answer:)

I will.


(Then the minister shall place a right hand upon their joined hands and say:)

Since they have taken the marriage covenant before God, and in the presence of these witnesses, by the authority committed unto me as a minister of the church of Jesus Christ, I declare that ____________ and ____________ are now husband and wife, according to the ordinance of God and the law of the state, in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Those whom God has joined together let not man put asunder. Amen.

Service 4

Short Form Wedding Ceremony - Contemporary


Introduction:

A wedding is the celebration of the miracle of love. (Groom's Name) and (Bride's Name), today, in the presence of God, we celebrate this miracle in your lives.


Here are some wonderful words that define the true meaning of love.


Love is patient and kind; Love is not jealous or boastful;

Love is not arrogant or rude; Love does not insist on its own way; Love does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices with the right.

Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.


Learning to love each other and to live together in harmony is one of the greatest challenges of marriage. Marriage is not to be entered into lightly, and we are to hold it in high honor at all times.


((Groom's Name) and (Bride's Name), I charge you both as you stand in the presence of God, to remember that love, trust, and loyalty are the foundation of a happy and enduring marriage. No vows are more sacred than those you are about to make. If these vows are kept unbroken, and as you endeavor to do the will of your Heavenly Father, your lives together will be full of joy and love.


Vows:

Please join hands and look into each other's eyes.


Do you (Groom's Name), take this woman, to live together in marriage; will you love her, comfort her, honor and keep her, in health and in sickness, in prosperity and in adversity; and forsaking all others, be faithful to her, so long as you shall live?


Groom: "I do."


Do you (Bride's Name), take this man, to live together in marriage; will you love him, comfort him, honor and keep him, in health and in sickness, in prosperity and in adversity; and forsaking all others, be faithful to him, so long as you shall live?


Bride: "I do"


Rings:

May I have the rings please?

These rings are symbols of eternity and the unbroken circle of love. Love freely given has no beginning and no end. Today you have chosen to exchange rings, as a sign of your love for each other, and as a seal of the promises you make this day. We ask that God bless these rings and this union of souls.


(Groom's Name), as you place this precious ring on (Bride's Name)'s finger repeat after me:

Just as this ring encircles your finger,/ so does my love encircle your heart./ May this ring forever be a symbol/ of my growing love for you./ With this ring I thee wed.

(Bride's Name), as you place this precious ring on (Groom's Name)'s finger repeat after me:

Just as this ring encircles your finger,/ so does my love encircle your heart./ May this ring forever be a symbol/ of my growing love for you./ With this ring I thee wed.


Closing Remarks:

As you continue on your journey together, I ask you to remember this advice:


The key to love is understanding ...

as it is the little things that say so much by themselves.


The key to love is forgiving ....

to accept each others faults and pardon mistakes,


The key to love is sharing ...

Sharing your good fortunes as well as bad, together.


The key to love is giving ...

Giving without thought of return,

but with the hope of just a simple smile,

and by giving in but never giving up.


Challenge to the Bride and Groom:

(Groom's Name) and (Bride's Name), May your love never fade, may you never take each other for granted, and when you are old, may you be found, hand in hand, still thanking God for each other. Never forget to treat each other with tenderness, kindness, and respect, and remind yourselves often of what drew you together in the first place.


Pronouncement:

(Groom's Name) and (Bride's Name), you have consented together in holy matrimony before God, have pledged your vows to each other, and have exchanged rings as tokens of your love and commitment to each other. In accordance with the laws of the state of California, with the authority of God's Word, and with great joy, I now pronounce you husband and wife.


Blessing: (optional)

The LORD bless you and keep you;

The LORD make His face shine upon you,

And be gracious to you;

The LORD lift up His countenance upon you, And give you peace.


YOU MAY SEAL YOUR VOWS WITH A KISS!


Congratulations, Mr. and Mrs. _________________!

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